• oshitwaddup@lemmy.antemeridiem.xyz
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    8 months ago

    If this is real i’d be interested to see the actual situation. To me this doesn’t sound like bullying, just people joking around and flexing their heat tolerance, especially if the people didn’t know how much work op put in and how much it meant to them. super hard to judge just on a story tho

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      8 months ago

      Yeah if this is real then to my reading this is some high effort, high quality banter. They had to carve this into a piece of wood, find this guys house, and then drive it over. That’s the sort of prank that’s done amongst friends thats fondly reminisced about for literally decades. They basically hand delivered this guy a personalized invitation to come hang out more.

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        OP wasn’t friends though he’d never met them before. Going that hard on someone who doesn’t know the group and boundaries they are comfortable with is not a way to make friends. They basically called him a pussy and shat on something he clearly put effort into right to his face. This story is obviously made up but if that’s how you treat people you want to include in your group you’re doing it wrong.

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          8 months ago

          You think “Mild Food Emergency Unit” was going hard and basically calling him a pussy? That is such a light, harmless joke.

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            I think chugging the hot sauce he brought and saying it wasn’t hot was calling him a pussy. Everyone joining in and laughing at him added to it. Damaging his property was also pretty disrespectful. It’s not harmless, it’s humiliating, to someone with social anxiety problems it will be scarring. Like I said before if they all knew each other it wouldn’t be that bad but he’s new to the group and the first thing they did was embarrass the shit out of him.

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              8 months ago

              Idk if its “his property” anymore, he left it behind with seemingly no intention of going back for it. But how would you not laugh at that? Some new guy you’ve never met shows up with this outrageously elaborate setup for his homemade ultra-hot hot sauce and when you try it, it isn’t spicy

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                8 months ago

                Because usually when someone does something that weird there’s usually something wrong with them mentally and picking on people like that is assholish.

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                  8 months ago

                  You really seem intent on finding malice and being offended.

                  • They said his sauce wasnt that hot, so clearly they’re calling him a pussy.
                  • They laughed, so clearly they were cruelly laughing at his expense.
                  • They took a lot of time and effort to make a joke that played on the thing he’d made, so clearly they wanted to make sure this guy knows hes a piece of shit that isnt welcome at their meet ups
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                    You really seem intent on finding malice and being offended.

                    That’s how social anxiety works buddy.

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        Exactly! That situation invites op to say something like “if that’s nothing show me what you got” and then do their best to act like it’s nothing no matter how hot whatever they give you is. Whether they can handle it or not i’m sure it could be a bonding experience, unless the club actually are bullies

        edit: actually don’t do that, see one of the replies to this

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          To be clear, don’t do this with hot sauce unless you’re certain you’ll be fine. While there’s nothing that can physically or chemically harm you in hot sauce, you can end up in unmitigable agony for several hours depending on the sauce, with a repeat showing of the spicy horror picture show when next you use the bathroom. In severe cases, people have been hospitalized. Source: I like a spicy

          Or do it, film it, and post it. I also like a spectate suffering

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          8 months ago

          Nothing like a manliness competition to bro up!

          That just makes them sound even douchier to me.

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            A manliness competition? Its a hot sauce social group, you can’t actually be surprised that such a group would try to outdo each other with heat tolerance.