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  • Rev3rze@feddit.nltoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldBumble
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    1 month ago

    As a guy who used to be on bumble (met my partner there) I will say that any conversation that started with ‘hey how’s it going’ just went nowhere 100% of the time. It’s so easy to ask literally anything else. We don’t know each other, what’s the point in asking how it’s going if all you’ll ever get as a reply is either “good, and you?” which doesn’t break any ice and introduces a lull on the conversation 4 messages into the chat or if it’s an honest “pretty shit, actually” the tone of the conversation becomes immediately weird because you don’t know each other enough to pry into that.

    Things you could ask:

    • cuddled any cats lately?
    • what made you smile today/this week?
    • what song have you played on repeat lately?
    • play any games lately? (depending on if they list games as their interest, most matches I got listed board games)

    This way you’ll immediately either find common ground or find differences between your everyday experiences that you can talk about.




  • It’s a secret third option, I suspect. You stated that everyone is equal so (by my interpretation) they meant to show you the difference between theory and practice. As in “if you’ve ever worked in the service industry you’d have experienced first-hand that often you are not treated as an equal”.

    Everybody is equal, but many assholes don’t see it that way.

    Edit: nevermind. Just got to the other comments further down and am shown, again, the folly of giving the benefit of the doubt.




  • To me, an ignorant person who has only begun to seriously question capitalism after being exposed to lemmy for about a year, this visual analogy seems to imply that capitalism and fascism are thought to be distinct in the eyes of the maker of this meme, though. I think the suggestion of having them both be homelander conveys a different message which seems to be the consensus here: they are different sides of the same coin.

    Admittedly, I’m out of my element here but I’m enjoying the exposure.


  • Rev3rze@feddit.nltolinuxmemes@lemmy.worldNo Mercy
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    3 months ago

    Off the top of my head: right click the task and hit end process. That has literally never failed me. Back in windows XP it might sometimes not actually kill the process but then there was always the “kill process tree” button to fall back on.







  • I’m fairly certain she didn’t lose the ability to laugh. I don’t think that’s entirely possible. Either you weren’t as funny as you think or she was awkward and nervous and that suppressed her real laughter. Or, hang on, there’s a third option which is she’s rotted her brain by being terminally online to the point where real experiences lose their meaning. Actually now that I think about it, that’s probably what you’re getting at here.

    Fuck, wait a minute, am I losing my touch with reality and human connections?



  • (Pre-edit: this became much longer than intended. You struck a chord in me it seems.)

    You’ve articulated this so very well. It’s a lesson that took me many years to learn and comes with the prerequisite of respecting yourself and respecting your partner to such a degree that the relationship comes second for both of you. Each person’s first priority should be themselves. Both parties need to respect that to the point of accepting that staying together is not a given and is contingent on both parties being fully satisfied with the direction your lives together is heading.

    The funny thing is that I’ve never felt more confident in my relationship since learning that. I used to think that’s putting the relationship second to yourself is antithetical to commitment but actually it’s the other way around. The only way to fully commit to a relationship is to make sure that maintaining it is a concious choice rather than an expectation or given.

    The way my dad illustrated this lesson in my youth (and I took the advice but only recently learned the full meaning of it) is like this: life is a journey down a road with many crossroads. Should you find a partner, you walk together. If you hit a crossroad and can’t agree on a direction then thank each other for the lovely journey together but let them follow their own path. Find that partner that is going to the same destination and you’ll have found happiness in love.