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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • I think the perspective is very valuable. When Trent wrote the song, he was still young. It gives time to atone, to grow, to do better. When Cash covered it, it was near the end of his life. He doesn’t have the luxury of time to make up for his shortcomings. It’s a lot more fatalistic.

    To answer your second question, no. I don’t think it would be as big without his name attached. Johnny Cash was so big, so iconic, that of course anything attached to him would get more attention. And the fact that more people are familiar with his life story and why this song would resonate so deeply with him definitely helped to spread the cover as well.

    To answer your unasked third question, personally I prefer the original. I do appreciate Cash’s cover though, and am glad he made it.







  • The Canadian system is triaged according to priority, as opposed to who can or can’t afford it. I’ve had several MRIs, including one during the height of COVID, and have never waited more than a few weeks. One was scheduled a couple of months out and then moved up after a radiologist reviewed my x-rays. Granted one of them was at 3am but would rather have answers and an inconvenient appointment time



  • I used to feel the same way with mirrors and actually wanted to write into my will that all photos of me must be destroyed upon my death. The idea of being permanently recorded terrified me.

    I think therapy really helped, since if anything my appearance has strayed further from my mental image. That’s not to say it’s the same for you. It’s a relief to me that I’m not the only one who has felt this way, and I hope that you find some relief from the feeling itself too.


  • I just learned about this, and think I have it too, to an extent. I’ve grown more comfortable as I move age and transform closer to the hag witch I was born to be.

    It’s called a fear of being perceived, or scopophobia. Apparently it’s common with neurodivergence (though I personally wouldn’t consider myself neurodivergent- at least not enough to seek a diagnosis).



  • I try to treat everyone as though I might be the first drop of kindness they have seen in some time, and my mantra when I find it difficult is “be kindness”- as in, choose the kindest option available to me at the time.

    THAT SAID, I would not call myself a nice person, and if I was asked this I would elaborate that I try to be kind. I’ve known a handful of people who call themselves nice and I’ve been disappointed in their lack of patience and grace for others. Nice people don’t need to say they’re nice.




  • Agree on the taking care of the place full time job piece! My partner and I are just starting to think about kids, and are most worried about the extra work in making sure things stay clean enough to be safe.

    Granted, I’ve had a whole lot of health issues (just completed surgery 5/5 in the last 5 years) so a lot of home maintenance fell by the wayside. We’re also both full time (42 hours minimum) and on top of that I have at least 4 medical appointments weekly still, so we are just in the process of getting a system going.

    Thank you for sharing what works for you!