I take off my shoes at home, but at my best friend’s house I leave them on because she has pets and the floors are always filthy.

OG Princess Leia

I was in my 50s before I started understanding this stuff. Before that, I was married to a very gregarious man who was my social buffer. I could hide behind his small talk. But then he passed away and I was left twisting in the wind until I started to learn how to make small talk. Often I just ask myself what my husband would have said.

So are you autistic? Because the literal-mindedness of your answers and the lack of awareness of how to engage in small talk is telling. I say this as one on the spectrum myself; it took me a long time to understand this is just an attempt to establish social connections by finding points of commonality. “Oh, you’re from Calgary? I used to live there, too! Did you know a store called Myth Games?” Neurotypical people are also waiting for you to ask the same things in return and often feel miffed if you don’t show any curiosity about them.

Bingo. Most of these tax schemes will hurt the renter, not the landlord.

Then your real problem is you don’t have an effective way to set and measure goals.

Not sarcastic. It would be such a relief.

But at least you can get taxis. The car-free utopia leaves out a lot of people like disabled and elderly.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could each have our own private pods?

My Kindle Touch has a night mode with blue light inhibitor

As a woman, I really feel bad for men in our society, especially straight men. They get very little positive interaction at all. I like to compliment strangers; it usually makes my day when somebody says, “I like your hair,” or whatever, and I like to spread the joy. But I have to be cautious about giving compliments to men. A lot of them look at me weirdly if I say, “nice tie,” or “snazzy shirt.” I smile, say it, then move on so they don’t feel obligated to respond. It appears most of them aren’t used to it and don’t know how to handle it. I guess other men don’t compliment them (maybe for fear of being thought gay?) and women don’t, either (for fear of encouraging stalking or harassing behavior). It makes me sad to think of all the lonely people who get no affirmation from anybody. I’m old enough now that my days of being constantly sexually harassed are over, so I feel safe offering a few nice words.

Gay men, OTOH, totally know how to give and take a compliment.

Watching Harvey Penick videos helped a lot too.

I agree with everything you said except the idea that I was being dismissive. It’s terribly concerning, especially if the symptoms have arisen recently. Because it often takes a long time to arrive at a proper diagnosis, it’s important to start down that path at once.

If this feels new rather than something you’ve always dealt with, please get evaluated by a doctor right away. Nobody on Lemmy can diagnose you over the Internet.

It’s been 30 years so I don’t really remember. They were higher quality and cut to fit my stance, which is a little weird because I have big boobs. Also I was starting from a really low bar – 56 handicap. The biggest improvement was the distance with my woods.

I’m dead-on average.

Custom golf clubs versus off the rack. Took 30 strokes off my game.

Haircuts / hair dyeing

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Just today I was searching for a news article about a local radio personality who got fired in the last few days. Zero relevant results. Just extraneous garbage. I was stunned.

Serious answer? The serenity prayer. Recognize what is in your control and what’s not. Accept what you can’t change, change what you can.